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mom•vo•cate [n. mom-vuh-kit]: a mom who acts for the well-being of her child and herself

Adventures in Babymooning

Posted on: October 13th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

So the hubs and I are in dire need of some chill time. Just he and I, a weekend, and nothing to think about. Since I’ve just burst into my third trimester, flights to Hawaii probably are not recommended (even if they were affordable). So instead, we’ve opted for a trip to the North Woods. Given that we live in the Twin Cities, it’s something of a staycation, but at least we’re squeezing in some R&R.

Babymoon, here we come!

We did the same thing in 2009, before Victoria was born, but this one seems just a little sweeter. We’re taking advantage of some grandma-provided toddler relief – as well as a Groupon deal – and hitting the road!

Lounging and relaxing is our definitely our style. We get plenty of wild adventures at home with Ms. Sass, so we’re looking forward to some quiet hot tub and reading time. Maybe a hike or two. And, oh yeah, cuisine prepared by someone other than mom, thank you very much.

Is it possible we know too much?

Posted on: October 13th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert


Published by BabyCenter.com

Gender, height, weight, position, facial expression (eek! that one creeps me out), chromosomal abnormalities and defects. This high-tech baby-making business has allowed us to know so much about our babies when they’re in the womb. And it may not always be a good thing. Prenatal testing is amazing and life-saving, of course. But the results can make a hormonally charged gal even more crazy. It’s true. I speak from experience.

Was it vital for me to know my baby gets shafted with one artery instead of two in the umbilical cord? Probably not. For you ladies who share my single umbilical artery (SUA) predicament, I’m sure you know that nine times out of 10 everything turns out all right—which is reassuring.

Anyone who has had an ultrasound abnormality requiring followup can relate to the fear my husband and I shared during those agonizing days of waiting for answers. What if the baby has Down syndrome? Heart defects? Growth restriction? What if, what if, what if.

Thankfully our little peanut got a clean bill of health. Measurements on track and no chromosomal abnormalities. Awesomeness.

But they’re not letting me off the hook that easily. In the not-so-distant future I’ll enjoy two-hour, weekly appointments to monitor growth, analyze fetal stress, yada yada.

Everyone assures me it’s wonderful to see the little one on a weekly basis. But, seriously, who has time for that with an almost-2-year-old Bogarting your time? I can’t help but feel it’s a bit much. Since my midwife insist it’s necessary and standard procedure, I may as well just roll with it. After all, that’s what parenting is about, right? Rolling with the punches.

But oh, to trade places with mom. When she was having babies, “there was none of this nonsense.” Suddenly, that doesn’t sound too shabby. If only they had figured out the epidural back in the day, I just might do it.

Preschool Parenting: Fun and educational ways to support your child’s development at home

Posted on: October 5th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

It’s common for parents to wonder and be concerned about their kids meeting various developmental milestones. That’s especially true as we prepare them for school.

For those of us who want to make sure we’re doing everything we can, there’s a workshop this month designed to do just that. The instructor is Corrine Gernes, who’s also my yoga teacher. She’s fabulous – I assure you!

The preschool workshop will give parents valuable tips on preparing their children for school in a way that is fun, convenient, and inexpensive. It will discuss social/emotional, physical and cognitive development milestones for 3- to 6-year-old children, and teach parents to support their child’s development as they explore the world around them and prepare for school. The focus will be on developing specific school-preparation skills such as pre-reading activities, number sense and motor development. There also will be an overview of the philosophy of education and discussion about the different learning styles.

Corrine has a Master’s Degree in Literacy Education Birth – Grade 6 from Fordham University. She has taught Pre-Kindergarten, Kindergarten, and First Grade for the past 10 years. She has recently left the classroom to teach yoga full time, but still has a passion for education, child development, and supporting families.

Feel free to e-mail Corrine with any questions. To register, visit Blooma.com or call (952) 848-1111.

Fee: $30 per couple (includes wine and snacks!)

Date: October 27, from 7-9p

Location: Blooma, 3919 44th Street Edina, MN 55424

SpongeBob may not be awesome for your preschooler

Posted on: September 16th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

Go figure. Fast-paced television without educational value is not helpful to your preschooler’s rapidly developing brain.

Earlier this week the journal Pediatrics published a study that found just that. The study included 60 preschoolers who were randomly assigned to one of three nine-minute tasks: watching SpongeBob, watching Caillou or drawing pictures. Afterward, the kids–all 4 year olds-took mental function tests to measure skills including attention, working memory, problem solving and delay of gratification that are associated with success in school. Surprise, surprise. The group that watched SpongeBob did significantly worse than the other two groups.

“Connecting fast-paced television viewing to deficits in executive function … has profound impacts for children’s cognitive and social development that need to be considered and reacted to,” wrote pediatrician Dr. Dimitri A. Christakis, an authority on children and the media, in an editorial accompanying the study.

In an interview with MSNBC, Dr. Christakis added: “Most parents worry too much about how much TV their children watch and not enough about what they watch. It’s not about turning the TV off. It’s about changing the channel.”

Nickelodeon noted that SpongeBob is intended for kids ages 6 to 11, not preschoolers. Important to note that I am not a SpongeBob hater, just believe it has its place. And that’s not in my 2-year-old’s routine.

Ahh! That’s what I call relief.

Posted on: August 28th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

Yeah, I know it’s questionable to some. But I don’t care what anyone says, chiropractic adjustments are the bomb. Especially when you have 25 extra pounds (or more!) situated squarely in your mid-section. The relief is like a drug.

If it weren’t for these weekly fixes, I am convinced that I would not make it out of bed. So hate if you want, but I’m all over that like white on rice.

There are some pretty decent benefits chiropractic adjustments can offer expecting mamas:

* Control nausea
* Optimize fetal positioning
* Prevent cesarean delivery
* Reduce labor and delivery time
* Reduce pain in the back, neck or joints

If you’re intrigued, then by all means, check it out. Most chiropractors are trained in prenatal and postnatal care, and some even specialize. Definitely look for one that practices techniques that avoid pressure to your bump. A good place to look is the International Chiropractic Pediatric Association, an organization that certifies chiropractors in pediatric and prenatal care.

On that note, chiropractic also has benefits for your little ones. The newborn babe, for instance, is fresh from marching through the battlefield of mama’s not-so-spacious vagina and likely will appreciate the relief. And the rapidly developing infant and toddler benefits particularly from adjustments around major milestones–rolling over, sitting up, crawling, walking, running, sassing, etc.

Again, hate if you like. But don’t say I didn’t tell you so.

Two cents from the hubs

Posted on: August 17th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

By Joe Albert

When we had our first ultrasound for our first baby, the technician told us it was a boy. I shouted, “YES!” or something like that. My wife’s response: “No, it’s not.” She was right, of course – call it a mother’s intuition – and I’m the proud father of Victoria, who’s almost 2, and going on 16.

But if my original reaction didn’t give it away, I always wanted a little boy. And now I’m getting one. Due in late December.

So let’s try this again: WOOHOO!!!! YES!!!!

I’m excited to have a little guy – a hunting buddy and a fishing buddy. And I’m excited that Victoria will have someone other than Kim and I to boss around. The truth is, she’ll be an awesome big sister and a good, uh, leader for her little brother. But maybe it’ll go the other way, too. Maybe he’ll be really mellow and rub off a little on her. Is that too much to ask?

It’s hard to know what it will be like to have two kids. It still seems like just yesterday I was the master of my own domain. But having a kid is infinitely better than that. So having two of them will be twice as nice, right?

To be honest, there is a lot about Victoria’s first few months that I don’t remember. Maybe I was too tired. Or maybe I was just looking ahead to the next milestone – the next this or the next that. It’s not that I didn’t appreciate each step along the way – it’s just that as I look back now I realize how quickly everything goes. It’s like I blinked my eyes and 22 months passed. People tell you that all the time, to soak it all up because it goes so fast. Now that I’ve been through it once, I swear this time around, I’ll do just that.

Check out my yogaliciousness

Posted on: August 5th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

Fun surprise this morning. And by fun, I mean, Dear God why did I not know about this beforehand?

As I roll into the yoga studio with short shorts (that I have no business wearing) and zero, I mean ZERO makeup, for a juicy prenatal session, I notice there is a news crew inconspicuously perched at the helm of the room. Oh. My. Goodness.

“By the way class, local news crew is in the house. Act normal.”

So I did my best to stretch and groove with the greatest of ease. I am not one to shy away from the spotlight. Lookin’ good or not.

And when I overheard the journalist asking for evidence, some sort of understanding why in the world we’re doing this to ourselves, my big mouth felt the need to chime in. I mean, hello. I am no stranger to research. “I can help you out. I’ll pull some academic studies and send them your way.” One “thank you” and “may I ask you a few questions” later and my short-short clad, makeup-less self is going to be sprawled across the evening news. Great. What did I get myself into?

Under any other circumstance, I would be shouting from the rooftops. But I am really more in the mood to provide an exclusive blog-readers-only heads up. So, don’t tune into FOX 9 at 5pm tonight. You’ll be in for a real treat!

Round two

Posted on: August 1st, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

It’s that time again. Time for another offspring.

That’s right, folks. Very pleased to announce that we are expecting baby number two to arrive around December 26. And this time around male parts are rumored to be present…

I predict pint-sized fishing gear in our future.

Activities that teach survival

Posted on: July 16th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

From her earliest days, Victoria has been fearless around water. The highlight of her day is a good ol’ splish-splashing in the tub. (It’s a different story for her soaking-wet parents, but that’s beside the point.) It isn’t just the bath, though. She loves swimming in pools, and she has no qualms about frolicking about with the fish at our family’s lake cabin.

Since the beginning, Victoria and I have enjoyed various activities that are beneficial to her development–yoga, music, painting, library, zoo, play groups. Another recent adventure: swimming lessons. Quite the sacrifice, I might add, for mama to appear swimsuit-clad in public. The things we do for our kids…

Not that I always follow the rules, but at that time the American Academy of Pediatrics did not recommended enrolling kids between 1 and 3. Why? There was little evidence it prevented drowning or helped them develop their swimming skills. Whatever. It’s a good thing I went with my intuition because the funny thing about rules and guidelines, they change.

The AAP now has softened its position. It still doesn’t recommend mandatory lessons for kids from 1 to 4 years old, but instead leaves the decision up to parents. The change in approach came about because of new information showing that swim lessons for kids in that age range may, in fact, reduce the risk of drowning. According to an AAP news release: “The new guidance recommends that parents should decide whether to enroll an individual child in swim lessons based on the child’s frequency of exposure to water, emotional development, physical abilities, and certain health concerns related to pool water infections and pool chemicals.”

Awesome that the AAP has changed its position. Because we are going to do it anyway! Just another illustration that parents know their children best and should make decisions with which they’re comfortable.

Not only is swimming a life activity, it’s also a survival skill. So do early lessons reduce drowning risk? It depends on the child, of course, but in Victoria’s case, her progress has been fantastic. Last summer she had so much fun splashing around in the lake. But the change in her swimming skills this summer is amazing. She still loves to splash, but she also kicks her legs and moves her hands in actual swimming motions. We’re still right there to hold her, of course, but there’s no doubt her swimming lessons have been nothing but positive.

4 quick tips to limit your child’s intake of food additives

Posted on: July 7th, 2011 by Kimberly Albert

Processed and packaged foods are a convenient choice for today’s busy families, but they’re loaded with thousands of additives to control color, flavor, aroma, nutrition, texture, and shelf life. (Thus, the impossible to pronounce ingredients lists!) Some are okay and some should be avoided, especially since they can have a disproportionately greater health impact on children compared to adults.

Limit your child’s intake of food additives by following these easy steps:

Identify what your child eats. Keep a food diary for a week, noting everything that is eaten – including at school. At the end of the week, you should have a good idea of your child’s exposure to food additives. Food additives are largely present in processed and packaged foods, candy, soda and other “junk” food, so if you limit those foods, you’ll cut down considerably.

Eat whole foods. Eating a balanced diet of fresh produce and whole grains will go a long way towards keeping additives out of your child’s system. Whole foods are much healthier than processed and packaged. But, if you do buy processed foods, look for the organic options which have little or no added synthetic colors or preservatives.

Read Labels. According to pediatrician, Dr. Alan Greene, be especially attentive to the top five risky additives:

1. Artificial Colors – anything that begins with FD&C (e.g. FD&C Blue #1)

2. Chemical Preservatives – Butylated Hydroxyanisole (BHA), Sodium Nitrate, Sodium Benzoate

3. Artificial Sweeteners – Aspartame, Acesulfame-K, Saccharin

4. Added Sugar – High Fructose Corn Syrup (HFCS), Corn Syrup, Dextrose, etc
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5. Added Salt – Look at the sodium content and choose foods with the lowest amounts.

Additionally, according to the Center for Science in the Public Interest, some of following additives have been associated with negative health impacts:

Propyl Gallate 

Sulfites (Sulfur Dioxide, Sodium Sulfite, Sodium And Potassium Bisulfite, Sodium and Potassium Metabisulfite)

Potassium Bromate 

Monosodium Glutamate (MSG)

Hydrogenated Vegetable Oil 

Partially Hydrogenated Vegetable Oil

Potassium Bromate
Olestra (Olean)

Heptylparaben

Sodium Nitrite

If you have a question about any food ingredient, dietary supplement or cosmetic contact the FDA’s Center for Food Safety and Nutrition, 888-SAFEFOOD.

Report Adverse Reactions. Alert your health care provider to any adverse reactions to find out if your child has special sensitivities or allergies. These reports are also often compiled for health agencies to monitor the safety of ingredients. If too many adverse impacts are reported, regulatory action may be necessary.

Learn more at HealthyChild.org.

Written by Janelle Sorensen of Healthy Child. Published by TheFamilyDinnerBook.com on July 5, 2011.